Outrage: How to respond?

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    drfabulous0

    So today I received the below letter from my sons’ school, needless to say I am in a state of total outrage. Any suggestions to how I might best respond? I’m thinking that although imediately satisfying, a drunken rant may not be the most appropriate course of action.

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    blablablacksheep20

    I can’t see why anyone would
    I can’t see why anyone would get upset with this?

    The school is doing the right thing in this regard.
    They cannot force kids to wear helmets as there isn’t a law in which they can use to do so.

    By making a big deal of this the school will just turn around and say no cycling at all to school because of people like yourself making a big deal out of it.

    Sorry to be harsh but I deal with schools and parents are at times the most annoying/ troublesome people in the world when it comes to thinking they know best.

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    Stumps

    I’m no medical expert but i
    I’m no medical expert but i thought i would have a quick read up on a childs skull. Whilst the chld is young (upto 18 months) the sutures in the skull are still open and soft – obviously not the age we are looking at here.

    As the child grows so does the skull but its not until they are older that the sutures fuse together – usually once the brain has stopped growing but they do get smaller as the child grows.

    So taking this into account the child still has soft spots in the skull when they are at an age to start cycling. Personally speaking i would get my child to wear a helmet at this stage and both my kids still do.

    If it has come from Govt then they are not alone. In the USA the centre for disease control and prevention makes the same point and the brain injury assoc of america validates the points made regarding children and brain injuries.

    I found this on the American Association of Neurological Surgeons, who i think might know a thing or two about head injuries and its a straight cut and paste from their website.

    “Every year, more than 500,000 people visit emergency rooms in the United States with bicycle-related injuries. Of those, nearly 85,000 were head injuries in 2009. There are about 600 deaths a year, with two-thirds being attributed to TBI. It is estimated that up to 85 percent of head injuries can be prevented through proper usage of The Snell Memorial Foundation, American National Standards Institute (ANSI) or American Society for Testing and Materials (ASTM)-approved helmets. It is essential that the helmet fit properly so that it doesn’t fall off while the user is riding or if he or she takes a fall”.

    The following facts/statistics are from Safe Kids USA:
    ■Head injury is the leading cause of wheeled sports-related death and the most important determinant of permanent disability after a crash.
    ■Without proper protection, a fall of as little as two feet can result in a skull fracture or other TBI.
    ■Approximately 50 percent of U.S. children between 5- and 14-years-old own a helmet, and only 25 percent report always wearing it while bicycling.
    ■Universal use of bicycle helmets by children ages 4 to 15 could prevent 45,000 head injuries.
    ■Helmet use can reduce the risk of head injury by 85 percent and severe brain injury by 88 percent.
    ■Eight states and the District of Columbia require children to wear a helmet while participating in wheeled sports such as riding on scooters, in-line skates or skateboards.

    Feel free to poo poo what i’ve typed but i’ve added it just to make people aware of whats said in other countries and NOT to start a helmet debate.

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    Jimmy Ray Will

    Interesting… I get it. I
    Interesting… I get it. I can imagine with the amount of lobbying from the school for parents not to drive their kids in unless they have to… i.e. find alternative methods of transport, such as… the bicycle, there is an argument that the school is ‘forcing’ kids to cycle.

    Its not a long legal journey to then say its the schools fault when kids have accidents travelling to school by bike.

    I’m not sure this will really cover their backsides from such claims, but I guess its covering their duty of care sufficiently for their insurers to pay out in such cases.

    I like the comment about the school inadvertently accepting liability for kids wearing helmets, I’d like to explore that further.

    As for helmet use, lets not cover this ground again. Interestingly I’m all but anti-helmet, however if I’m taking my 6 year old for a cycle, I’ll ask her to helmet up. Seems sensible, however, if I am honest, she has never banged her head once from plenty of falls…

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    OldRidgeback

    msw wrote:Yes, that comma

    msw wrote:
    Yes, that comma after “Parents” is a disgrace.

    And the letter being addressed to – Parent/Carer – is also outrageous. T hese words are not proper nouns as any fule kno.

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    northstar

    No they “shouldn’t” if the
    No they “shouldn’t” if the parent decides not too then that “should” be accepted and respected…

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    southseabythesea

    kids should wear a helmet,
    kids should wear a helmet, when they’re old enough to make their own decision then they can decide for themselves. Don’t be a chump!

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    700c

    GoingRoundInCycles

    GoingRoundInCycles wrote:
    … needless to say I am in a state of total outrage.

    Maybe I am being a bit thick but having read the letter, I still haven’t a clue why you are in a state of ‘total outrage’.

    Any chance of an explanation?

    Me neither!

    If it really is just about the school holding the view that helmets contribute to safety, (they are not even mandating their use), then as another poster said, maybe you need to recalibrate your outrage parameters!

    I can only imagine the state of anger you’re in, when watching pro cyclists being forced to wear helmets, or walking into actual shops where they’re sold. Shelves full of them! Arrgh!

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    goggy

    My wife is a schoolteacher,
    My wife is a schoolteacher, and her thoughts are that the school is following government advice. If the government view changes, then so will the school’s.

    So petition the government to change their stance 🙂

    Regarding the security of the bike – my company has the same policy. I have a proper lock. Schools run on a very tight budget and simply don’t have the cash to keep replacing bicycles.

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    msw

    Yes, that comma after
    Yes, that comma after “Parents” is a disgrace.

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    jmaccelari

    No problem. I personally
    No problem. I personally think children should be encouraged to wear helmets and for them to indemnify themselves if the child doesn’t is reasonable. Especially if you want them to wear a helmet, they then go home without it, injure themselves and then you blame the school. Blame the letter on the parents, not the school.

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    jmaccelari

    No problem. I personally
    No problem. I personally think children should be encouraged to wear helmets and for them to indemnify themselves if the child doesn’t is reasonable. Especially if you want them to wear a helmet, they then go home without it, injure themselves and then you blame the school. Blame the letter on the parents, not the school.

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    allez neg

    Yup, if you’re outraged at
    Yup, if you’re outraged at that then perhaps you need to reassess your outrage parameters.

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    farrell

    I see that as pretty
    I see that as pretty reasonable, they are just covering their arses. From my knowledge of parents and the way they view schools and teachers I fully support them in every last little bit of being ridiculous sticklers to the rules. Far too many parents see school as somewhere they can abandon their little shitty horror spawn for as long as possible so they dont have to do any real parenting and also as a cozy way of finding someone to blame and hold responsible for their complete failure in being able to raise a child properly.

    I’m not for one second suggesting you are one of those parents by the way.

    With my kids I’d insist on wearing a helmet, and I’m vehemently anti helment compulsion for adults. I appreciate that could be seen as hypocritical.

    I would let the malevolent side of me create an extra box that states whilst I take resposibility for my child riding to school without a helmet, I would hold the school, and the head personally, 100% to blame for any incident caused by them allowing cars to exceed speed limits, parking in restricted areas and innapropriately sized vehicles such as 4x4s and other such twatwagons from Bramhall etc.

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    Leviathan

    It is one thing for adults to
    It is one thing for adults to consent to and choose wearing a helmet or not, but children don’t give informed consent. And parents have never had it all their own way in child raising matters, society has always interfered and quite right too. So Sportive rules apply, play by the rules or don’t play at all, but feel free to write them a strongly worded letter.

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    GoingRoundInCycles

    Quote:… needless to say I

    … needless to say I am in a state of total outrage.

    Maybe I am being a bit thick but having read the letter, I still haven’t a clue why you are in a state of ‘total outrage’.

    Any chance of an explanation?

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