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Hiding an N+1 from the missus

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  • May 26, 2020 at 1:47 pm #30762
    Secret_squirrel

    Just wondering how many of this fraternity have succumbed to the temptation to hide an N+1 from their SO?

    And whether you were eventually busted?

    Used to do it all the time when I was retrobiking and had frames coming in and out like yo-yos. Much harder now I have just riders and N is down to 4-5.

    Any tips / cautionary tales?

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  • July 13, 2020 at 5:44 am #959677
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    essexian

    My wife and I have an

    My wife and I have an agreement. I can spend whatever I like on bikes as long as she can spend the same amount on guitars….

    Somehow I don’t think her latest purchase cost the same as the £75 I spent on my new handbuilt Ti framed machine….

    July 12, 2020 at 10:24 pm #959675
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    mtb_roadtripper

    It was second hand, only just

    It was second hand, only just, maybe 20 rides old. 

    Obviously there was an absolute myriad of things wrong with that relationship. The beautiful titanium rocket ship was one of the lighter straws that broke that particular camels back. 

    July 12, 2020 at 7:33 pm #959673
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    Mungecrundle

    Guy at work still has the
    Guy at work still has the bike he bought without his wife’s knowledge stored in a spare office. 3 years now…

    July 12, 2020 at 6:20 pm #959671
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    ktache

    Nice!  The bicycle that is.

    Nice!  The bicycle that is.

    Reasonable prices and very customisable.

    Obviously not meant to be, but wouldn’t something second hand have sufficed, you could have upgraded and made it hers together.

    July 12, 2020 at 5:42 pm #959669
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    Chris Hayes

    …stealth is the answer here

    …stealth is the answer here…component by component replacement…. although I just landed a new Factor O2 and my wife was genuinely understanding.  I did say that I’d probably get rid of some of my older bikes, but it’s difficult – they have zen. 

    July 12, 2020 at 2:27 pm #959667
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    brooksby
    jollygoodvelo wrote:
    As someone said above, as long as you’re not compromising your finances in other areas (including saving towards whatever targets you have) surely you can spend your money how you choose.

    That said, I did once bring a new bike home while she was at work, left it in the space that the old one was in (and put the old one in the spare room) and it took a week for her to notice.

    If you are married then there is no “your (singular) money” but only “your (plural) money”. In my experience, I need to get my wife’s permission to spend money on ‘luxuries’ but she can buy whatever she wants…

    July 12, 2020 at 1:27 pm #959665
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    mtb_roadtripper

    Not so long ago I was looking

    Not so long ago I was looking for a mtb for my girlfriend, something good but obviously not too pricey. While searching I began to get pangs of lust for a hardtail. I had a road bike, touring bike, full suss mtb but while looking through hardtails for her…..I bought a Kingdom Vendetta Ti….She is now my exgirlfriend and I have a bloody gorgeous aggro hardtail. heart

    July 12, 2020 at 12:07 pm #959663
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    efail
    brooksby wrote:
    But I’m not allowed to do that…

    Agree. I daren’t ask my wife how much she spent having her hair done yesterday. 

    July 12, 2020 at 11:44 am #959661
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    Hirsute

    Yes – I take it you are
    Yes – I take it you are either not married or have a large amount of disposal income.

    July 12, 2020 at 11:10 am #959659
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    srchar

    I don’t understand why people

    I don’t understand why people need their other half’s permission to buy something, assuming there is a roof over your heads, heat, light and food on the table.

    Would it really cause a row if you bought a new bike without approval?

    July 12, 2020 at 10:09 am #959657
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    matthewn5

    Same here. But we have

    Same here. But we have rigorously separated finances.

    Talk to your OH about why you love bikes, tell them why you want a new part, show them the bits you’re buying, ask for help deciding on texture/colour of bar tape, etc. My OH has no real interest in bikes per se, but loves the bike I built her, and is always excited and happy for me if I buy a new frame/groupset, etc. I ask her opinion on colour matching etc because she’s got a better eye for that than I have.

    It can become a shared joy, as long as it doesn’t 1. bankrupt you, 2. stop you paying your share of the bills/mortgage etc, 3. fill up the living room with bikes

    May 29, 2020 at 3:13 pm #959655
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    Anonymous

    Good God, are you a man or a

    Good God, are you a man or a mouse?

    Honesty and being upfront about your cycling fetish is always the best way to go. Where would the lying stop after the first untruth has been told?

    Of course, you could always bribe her. I’d imagine she’d love a new hoover when you get a ew bike 

    May 28, 2020 at 11:57 am #959653
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    David9694

    “Don’t let my wife sell my

    “Don’t let my wife sell my bikes for what I told her I paid for them”

    May 28, 2020 at 9:38 am #959651
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    Anonymous

    As someone said above, as

    As someone said above, as long as you’re not compromising your finances in other areas (including saving towards whatever targets you have) surely you can spend your money how you choose.

    That said, I did once bring a new bike home while she was at work, left it in the space that the old one was in (and put the old one in the spare room) and it took a week for her to notice.

    May 27, 2020 at 7:44 pm #959649
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    Nick T

    Just buy a bike and put it

    Just buy a bike and put it where you intend to keep it. If I care home and there was a new handbag/shoes/bike/laptop/nintendo she bought herself on the dining table I wouldn’t give a shit, why should it be any different the other way around

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